Stitchboard Admin message #46
Re: Rainbow baby blanket.
June 22, 2015 at 11:57:58 PM
 
Line,

I'm guessing your nerves had a lot to do with that C, so please don't kick yourself...you did your best, I'm sure.  And you'e done so well in other areas, anyway, I'm sure that C won't mean much in the long run. 

Glad you've done the majority of your own packing...of course, you'll want the boys' things available to them.    The transition will likely be hard enough, so anything to help them along is great! 

Oh, no, everyone is weaseling out on their promise to help you move?!    Grrrr!    That's so wrong.  Glad you've found other people to help you.  

You're so right...moving is horrible...the nice thing is that you'll be able to start your new life soon.    Wow, 9 days isn't bad at all!    Sending lots and lots of good thoughts your way for a smooth move. 

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Stitchboard Admin message #48
Re: Rainbow baby blanket.
June 25, 2015 at 1:38:08 AM  (in response to Aabye message #2)
 
Line,

Hope you did really, really well on your oral English exam. 

That text sounds very upsetting...sending good thoughts your way that you were able to concentrate instead on your exam.

Only a week left...happy dance time again! 

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Stitchboard Admin message #50
Re: Rainbow baby blanket.
June 26, 2015 at 11:27:50 PM  (in response to Aabye message #4)
 
Line,

That's the absolute best news I've ever heard...though not a surprise at all!    Did I mention  you're very, very smart?    Anyway, congratulations on the highest grade in the class, and be proud...you deserve it! 

Glad you can relax now on your grades. 

5 more days...wow!    That's not long at all...so are you going to make this a quick move or a slower one?

Wish there were something more inspiring to say in addition to congratulations...what a fantastic accomplishment! 

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Stitchboard Admin message #52
Re: Rainbow baby blanket.
June 28, 2015 at 2:59:41 AM  (in response to Aabye message #6)
 
Line,

Wow, that would be the quickest move ever, IMO!  But so worth it...I don't blame you at all for not wanting to stay in your apartment any longer than necessary.  That was how I felt when we finally were able to move out of our previous place!  Even though we were still going back and forth for a while, and it was very, very stressful, it did feel way better to be on the other end of things.  It felt...hopeful, despite still having to return to the old place many times.

And it's great that you have people helping you...plus, nice that your boyfriend is also free to spend time on the move and adjustments thereafter.    Even moving to a better place is stressful, so it will help to be together for the process. 

Will you have help with the painting?  We had to paint both of our offices; however, though my husband helped with mine, he actually specifically told me not to help with his.  My office was in worse shape; there was old wallpaper that had to be steamed and torn off, ugh.  And then he had to do the upper parts of the walls, which I couldn't reach.

When it came to his office, though, I was ready to help...and he told me he would work on it alone.  Not that he didn't want the help, but he knew that if I messed something up, he'd be upset with me.  So he painted his office all by himself (though he had no wallpaper to steam/peel, just had to prime and paint), and he can only be mad at himself for any spills or lumpy paint, LOL, because it wasn't me! 

He had a major spill in my office...luckily, the flooring is old and crappy, so it really doesn't matter if it's messed up...we'll ultimately replace it...someday, as the house still needs a lot of work.  And still, since he's the one who did the major spilling, he can't be mad at me!

Anyway, sending you lots of good thoughts and wishes for a smooth move.    Please do keep in touch with your progress.  

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Stitchboard Admin message #54
Re: Rainbow baby blanket.
July 1, 2015 at 3:51:00 AM  (in response to Aabye message #8)
 
Line,

Glad you'll have friends to help you with painting.    That's a job that can get very, very stressful.

When will your friends return? 

I'm so sorry you can't overdo it without really hurting.    Of course they're right about taking it easy, rather than aggravating your pain and paying for it later. 

I understand the perfectionist thing, sigh.  Hope you can find the right balance so you're happy after with the way things were done. 

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Stitchboard Admin message #56
Re: Rainbow baby blanket.
July 11, 2015 at 4:09:47 AM  (in response to Aabye message #10)
 
Line,

Oh, hon...how awful...I'm so sorry!    Sounds like you need a quick crocheting fix.  Can you get to a store and pick up a hook and just one skein of yarn, so you can relax and ease your mind?

Do you have any recourse on the problems they left behind?  Can you get some money refunded?  That's really horribly unfair that you have to clean everything they left behind, plus pull out all of the screws from the walls...I mean, really?!  They couldn't take a few freaking minutes to do that instead of leaving it for you?! 

Feeling your pain. 

I hope the worst of it is over fast and you can relax soon.  My suggestion is to get yourself a single hook and skein to tide you over until you can find and unpack your hooks and yarns.    Doing something enjoyable will help with a lot of that stress and give you the strength to go on.    And it's cheaper than seeing a shrink!    Plus you get something nice out of it at the end. 

I'm very happy to hear your boys like the space.    Hopefully as they're less stressed and unhappy, you'll feel better.  I just wish the previous owners would hire a cleaning crew to take the stress off of you guys.  They should at least do that much!  I can't imagine what would possess them to walk away, knowing it was a total mess.  So unfair. 

Hope you can de-stress and feel better about your place soon.    And I hope the work on the apartment goes very, very fast. 

I'm sorry your mother has done so much to stress you out...ugh, at the absolute worst time! 

Hang in there, hon, and feel free to vent anytime...I'm here for you.    Sending good thoughts your way that the work you still have left goes fast and you'll be able to relax in your new place.  Oh, and that you'll find some yarn and a crochet hook so you can relax with something you enjoy. 

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Stitchboard Admin message #58
Re: Rainbow baby blanket.
July 12, 2015 at 1:45:11 AM  (in response to Aabye message #12)
 
Line,

I'm so sorry you can't get a refund.    I imagine even though it's in the contract, it wouldn't be worth taking them to court...is that correct?  More trouble than what you'd get out of it, and too disruptive to your lives?

I'm relating so much to what you're going through.  When we got our house, well, aside from the lack of cleanliness, we didn't have any working plumbing, so we literally couldn't move in for 2 months after we'd bought it until it was fixed (nobody told us until the day before we had a scheduled inspection of the house).  And we tried to negotiate, to either get a break on the price or get the repair done, but we were told we were taking the house as is and we could take it sans plumbing or they'd put it back on the market.

We just found out literally about 11 hours ago that one of our former neighbors would have put a bid on the house had we not taken it in that condition.  Wow, glad we didn't know it at the time, otherwise, we would have been panicking!  (As it is, when we originally went to buy the house, someone had just put a bid on it hours before and the only reason it didn't happen was because they couldn't get it financed.  There are certain conditions that must be met for financing, and this house would never have met those conditions.  Anyway, that still set us back about 3 weeks, which was awful, since we were pushed so much on the other end to move way too quickly.  We were working so hard, we both were injured!)

It's really not fair that you can't just relax and do what you need to do, rather than having to work on the things they were supposed to do as part of the contract.    And it's unfair that it's also interfering with the time you had planned to spend together! 

Hope you can spend some good, relaxing time in August, crocheting and enjoying the rest of the summer, before you have to go back to school! 

You're welcome...feel free to rant more than a bit...rant a lot...you deserve far better treatment!  Sending more good thoughts your way that everything gets better very quickly! 

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Stitchboard Admin message #60
Re: Rainbow baby blanket.
July 13, 2015 at 2:09:32 AM  (in response to Aabye message #14)
 
Line,

I'm very sorry...but not surprised it would cost more to go to court over the lack of cleaning.    It sounds like the realty business can be just as crooked there as it can be here.    And then there are the people who have no conscience at all and can do that sort of thing, like the person who previously owned your house. 

Right?!  Isn't working plumbing vital these days?  It was hard to be at the house just bringing things over, as there was no bathroom to use. 

They didn't say anything about the plumbing because they simply didn't care.  This wasn't an owner, though.  The house had been foreclosed, so it was a financial entity that was selling.  So they were just looking for someone to take it, and they were sure at some point the price would be low enough that someone would accept the deal as is, without having to fix the plumbing or refund some money.  Sadly, they were right, as we did have to accept the deal as is, because on the other end we were being (illegally) pushed to move four months earlier than had been agreed upon. 

If we hadn't taken this place, we probably would have had to move out of the area.  We would have found a better house (in other words, something in move in condition, not needing repairs), but it would have caused other problems, as we still needed access to the same basic area, and everything else was much farther away.

One's finances affect financing here, too.  It's both...if they don't feel you can handle the payments and/or the place isn't up to the lender's standards, it's possible a sale won't then happen.  It's also way different than it used to be.  People used to get mortgages based on...nothing.  Someone told us to apply for a mortgage years ago, one we didn't think we could handle back then!  (Obviously, we didn't do it.)  But after the economy got worse and it was found people were "underwater" with their mortgages (owed way more than their homes were worth), the process of handing out mortgages without checking on people's finances stopped.  Now they want to be sure you can pay, that lenders aren't going to get stuck with mortgages that will go unpaid, where the owners will have to be foreclosed on and the lenders will have to sell the same houses much cheaper.  Not that it stops foreclosures altogether, of course.  Nothing will stop that completely.  But it does make it harder to buy a house. 

That's really interesting how it goes there with the inspections and determinations of what's wrong with a house.  It sounds pretty similar, though I'm not familiar with how much different things affect whether or not someone will get a mortgage here.  I just know how the inspector pointed out certain things that were fine for us, but which wouldn't have allowed us financing had we been looking for it.

Glad to hear all of your K3s were easy fixes!  It definitely sounds crazy that the electrical cabinet labels being unlabeled counted as a K3...I'd think that's a very easy fix and barely worth mentioning!

Sending more good thoughts that you can relax soon. 

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